With over a million followers on her Instagram account, artist Lainey Molnar is undoubtedly the most refreshing and entertaining addition to our social media feeds. But what's all the fuss about? Molnar's unique talent lies in her ability to depict situations that every 30+ woman can relate to, with such authenticity, accuracy, and humor that it's impossible not to fall in love with her work. From diets and dating to sexuality and female expectations, Molnar tackles taboo topics with intelligence and honesty, delivering spot-on illustrations that will make you laugh, cry, and nod in agreement. So if you haven't discovered her yet, now is the time. Check out these 45 must-see illustrations that showcase Molnar's exceptional talent and make you feel seen, heard, and understood.
It’s My Choice
We’ll be kicking off this series by exploring one of the most crucial ideas of our time - freedom of choice! This cartoon is of a woman with tags that indicate she’s wearing fake nails, has breast implants, and other "controversial" things.
We're wired to judge people for their appearance and personal choices. But let's not forget that everyone has the freedom to express themselves however they want! It's not fair to condemn or shame someone for not fitting into your narrow definition of "acceptable" looks.
Just Caring For My Body
Let’s talk about how people are always so quick to label and judge. Here we have a mash of two pictures; one shows a woman relaxing and reading a book while the other shows another woman eating.
It's a sad reality that society brands a woman who eats "insatiable" and one who takes a break to relax as "lazy." Our bodies require both nourishment and rest to function at their best, so why shame someone for taking care of themselves?
I’ll Choose What I Put On My Body, Thank You!
Here we have another picture mashup of two women. One is dressed in a hijab and full gown, while the other wears a sheer cutout top. Many cultures around the world expect, and even force, women to dress in a certain way.
Sometimes, these expectations are even backed by capital punishment. However, some women are comfortable in more modest clothes, while others prefer to show off skin. We should all be free to choose what to wear without fear of punishment or judgment.
What People Think is "Fat"
Do you remember Bridget Jones? The story is about a woman trying to lose weight and fit into society's narrow definition of beauty. Not much has changed since 2001. There are lots of Bridget Jones in the world today with the same problem.
Society has convinced us that the "perfect" woman is slim and weighs less than 60kg. Unfortunately, this ideology has wreaked havoc on mental health and body image. This standard is unrealistic and harmful. Your idea of perfection is what matters.
Hair is Natural, Not Disgusting
This cartoon is about a not-so-talked-about but totally real problem – shaving. Now you’re probably wondering, “In what world is shaving a problem?” Good question, but here’s one for you: As a woman, why do you shave your legs?
Some people shave because it makes them feel more beautiful, and that's totally cool. But it's not cool if you're shaving because someone told you body hair is gross. Hair is supposed to grow on legs, so if you don't want to shave, don't.
Men Need to Stop Doing This
Take a close look at the collage below. What do you think the scenarios depicted in them all have in common? If you guessed boundaries, or a lack of, then you’re totally right!
It’s sad that in this day and age, people are still ignorant or deliberately obtuse about the concept of boundaries. There are unnecessary things that you just don't say or do to other people because it’s wrong; everything above are perfect examples!
Call Out Your Friends on their BS
We’ve talked a little about boundaries – or the lack of – and now let’s talk about another equally important concept. Check out the conversation between these two men discussing drinking and responsibility.
One thinks men shouldn't be held accountable for their actions when drunk, but that same rule doesn't apply to women. Alcohol affects everyone similarly, so why are the expectations different for women? Let's stop the double standards and hold everyone accountable for their actions.
What Exactly Is The Problem?!
Remember how we talked about how society judges people, especially women, based on what they wear? They don't just get judged, they are also scrutinized and punished. Women get punished, and sometimes beaten, for covering up and showing too much skin.
What exactly does society want? There is no pleasing people, and some will always remain dissatisfied regardless of your choices. So why even try to please and live up to society's impossible standards at the cost of your comfort and happiness?
It’s A Real Struggle Too
This post talks about a serious problem in the world today. On a scale of one to ten, how serious do you think mental struggles are compared to physical struggles? People with depression get told, "It's all in your head" all the time.
But here's the truth - mental health struggles are just as real and deserving of attention as physical ailments, if not more. So, let's start treating them that way and give people the support and care they need to overcome them.
You Have Standards
Artist Lainey Molnar's next cartoon depicts a woman staring at her phone, which seems to be buzzing, indicating a new message. Now you’re probably wondering, “What’s this picture all about?”
It’s about relationships, healthy relationships. Often, one partner gets ignored or treated badly so much that they believe receiving proper treatment is something they need to “earn.” This is wrong! Healthy relationships are built on mutual respect and kindness, not on earning basic decency.
First Date Jitters
There’s no question that men and women live in very different worlds, and if you disagree, just take a look at the picture below. Here we have thoughts men and women have before a first date.
While the man's question is pretty normal, the woman's question concerns safety and protection. This is the norm for women because they are frequently the victims of violent crimes, especially when online dating. Never judge a woman for being too cautious.
Loving Yourself is Love Too
Let's delve into the juicy topic of love! It's a complex emotion that means different things to different people. In the captivating cartoon, we witness a myriad of interpretations of love. It's fascinating how love can manifest in so many ways.
Each interpretation of love is valuable, and it's crucial to understand what love means to you. Is it butterflies in your stomach? Or is it unwavering support in a long-term relationship? Don't let anyone else dictate what love should look like for you.
Stop Making Excuses
The artist touches on the theme of love again in this cartoon. What do you think these women have in common? No idea? Don't worry! These are all common excuses people make for staying in toxic relationships.
Earlier, we spoke about self-love being very important, and this is one of the cases. There is never any good reason to remain in a relationship where you’re constantly neglected or hurt. You deserve to be loved, respected, and valued. Don't settle for less.
What's the Difference?
This picture shows what a woman’s body typically looks like during pregnancy and motherhood. Now this picture might look pretty simple, but it does address a very important point about appreciating women's bodies.
We all love admiring and touching a baby bump, but sadly, mothers who appear out of shape rarely receive the same love and adoration. Pregnancy changes the body, even postpartum. It's unfair to shame women when it's just a natural part of the process.
Give Validation Not Solutions
Are you currently in a relationship? If you are, then you’ll have certainly had experiences where you were feeling a certain way and your partner kept trying to give solutions. Sometimes people don’t need solutions, they need to be seen and validated.
Understanding this will help you improve your relationships. So the next time your partner comes to you with a problem or is feeling a certain way, try to resist the urge to immediately offer solutions. Instead, listen and be present with them.
What Is Self-Care?
We have talked about self-care in this post, but what exactly is self-care? The answer to that question is what we have in Molnar's picture below and your personal definition.
Self-care can encompass many things, and it's more than just a buzzword. It's about valuing yourself enough to make choices that will enhance your overall well-being. From taking a relaxing bath to saying "no" to commitments that drain your energy, self-care is all about prioritizing yourself.
It's Not a Race
The artist drew two cartoon women who are apparently of the same age. However, while they have age in common, there is one stark difference between them. Have you spotted it yet? If it's not obvious, read on.
One is engaged, and the other isn’t. Society has programmed us to think that women of a certain age have to be married or else they’ve failed. However, this couldn’t be further from the truth. Life isn’t a race and marriage isn’t a prize.
Milestones at 30
Take a close look at these four pictures. These are aging milestones. We're talking about the not-so-glamorous side of aging – the back pain, the inability to wear your favorite heels, and the desire to stay inside all day.
But it’s not all bad. There’s fun stuff, like enjoying the feel of a comfy pair of slippers or a good book on a lazy day. Growing old can be a rollercoaster of fun and stress, but it's something to look forward to.
No Cause For Alarm
Now let’s talk about changes. How often do you think the human body undergoes changes? Think about it, the answer might surprise you. It's not just puberty and menopause.
Your body changes daily, and these changes aren’t always pleasant. For example, you might notice things like your hair thinning or skin texture becoming less smooth. These are all natural things and there’s absolutely no reason to beat yourself up. You're totally fine!
It's Okay to Ask for Help
Have you ever heard the saying, “Things aren’t always as they seem or as they appear?” Well, it’s true! Just take a look at the scene depicted in this picture.
People often think someone who is always “available” and ready to listen has it all perfect. However, this is rarely the case. These people need help just as much as you do. Reach out to that stoic friend and ask them how they’re doing.
The Grey Area of Personal Choices
One of the beautiful things about being human is the freedom of choice. The freedom to choose whatever you want and whatever you feel is best for you. Unfortunately, society has conditioned us to think that some choices are right and others are wrong.
For example, the scenarios in this cartoon. Marriage is often seen as a non-negotiable. And heaven forbid you choose to stay at home instead of working! But you are the master of your fate. You get to decide what's best for you.
Rewards System
Let's talk about society's "prize possessions." You know what I'm talking about – having a killer job, owning a fancy house, and looking rich. We're told that these are the things that define success and happiness.
Sure, society may reward these things, but at what cost? The constant hustle and pressure to attain these external accolades can take a serious toll on your body and mind; what society rewards and values are totally different from what your body needs.
Promoting Positive Content
Have you ever watched an adult movie? I bet you have! But have you noticed that a lot of these films promote all the wrong things? From body objectification to disregard for consent, it's a real problem.
The more people are exposed to content like this, the more their views of love and relationships become flawed. Adult content should be about inclusivity, diversity, and most importantly, promoting consent. It's time to shift the focus from objectifying bodies to celebrating them.
Double Standards
Take a look at Molnar's captivating cartoon. What do you see? What you're looking at is a perfect example of the double standards about men's and women's bodies in our society today. It's pretty mind-boggling.
Some might think these pictures are an exaggeration, but unfortunately, the sad truth is that this happens too often. It's time for both men and women to be held to the same standards and expectations. After all, equality is incredibly important!
Talk About It
Guess what these women are discussing. That’s right, they’re talking about sex! It's no secret that many people tend to shy away from discussing sexuality and pleasure with their partners or friends, but that's exactly what we need to stop doing!
Talking about pleasure and sexuality is important for experiencing it. So, the next time the topic pops up, don't be afraid to join in on the conversation. You might even learn a few new things that could come in handy later on!
Birds of A Feather
These images paint a pretty interesting story. In the first one, we have a woman with a small pot plant looking at another whose plants are much bigger. In the second picture, the plants are similar in size. The theme? Comparison!
Life can be tough when you're constantly bombarded with images of people who seem to have it all. It's easy to fall into the trap of comparing yourself to others and feeling inadequate. Focus on finding your tribe and celebrate your progress.
No Comments Necessary
Let's talk about bellies. It seems like no matter where you go, someone always has an opinion about them. Maybe you've experienced it yourself – the awkward stares, the unwanted comments, the unsolicited advice. There are many reasons why someone has a noticeable stomach.
Maybe they just had a delicious meal, or maybe they're pregnant and glowing. Whatever the reason, remember that everyone's body is different and unique, but there's no need to comment on it. Keep your opinions to yourself.
Just Girly Things
Who else can sadly relate to this collage? Artist Lainey Molnar gave us another harsh truth about modern society and women. This is the new normal for women and girls.
It's a sad truth that women are often mistreated, sexually harassed, or subjected to abuse, and this picture is a glaring testament to that. We find it disheartening that this kind of behavior persists in our society.
Teamwork Makes the Dream Work
Have you noticed how in almost every movie, the woman is stuck cleaning and doing all the house chores while the man lounges around? It's frustratingly similar to what we see in the picture below, and it's not okay.
For years, society has conditioned men to believe that household chores are solely a woman's job. But it's a shared responsibility that no one is born an expert in. It's time we break these gender roles and start working together as a team.
Mental Health is a Real Health Issue
In the next couple of posts, we’ll look at what it means to have a mental illness today. One thing that people with mental struggles often hear is the hurtful phrase, "You're just making things up for attention."
Mental health issues are often misunderstood and dismissed, and we must end this harmful behavior. Just because someone's wounds aren't visible to the naked eye doesn't mean they're faking it for attention. Mental health is just as important as physical health.
Don't Be a Baby!
“Everyone is sad sometimes, just snap out of it!” This is yet another statement that people struggling with their mental health hear all too often, especially for those struggling with depression.
Depression is not just your typical bout of sadness. It's a complex mental health condition that requires compassion, empathy, and understanding to overcome. Telling someone not to be sad is dismissive and shows a lack of understanding about what they're going through.
Putting on My Happy Mask
There are so many misconceptions about mental health and struggles, and this one is one of the most common. In this picture, the man says, “But you seem completely normal, you don’t look depressed.”
News flash! It’s called mental illness, not physical illness. Mental struggles are rarely visible or easily observed with the eyes. Just because someone doesn’t “look” depressed does not mean they’re not going through it. Let's listen to their experiences instead of judging their looks.
Gender Interpretations
Have you ever been called "bossy" for taking charge of a situation, only to watch a man do the same thing and be praised for being "assertive"? It's a frustrating reality that many women face because of gender stereotypes.
Society often views women who assert themselves and speak their minds as "too aggressive" or "domineering," while men who exhibit the same behavior are "confident" and "strong." This double standard holds women back from fully expressing themselves and achieving their goals.
It Takes on So Many Meanings
Remember when we talked about self-care earlier? Well, there's more to it than just bubble baths and face masks. Check out this picture and interpretation from Molnar for some other great examples. Recognize when you need to take a step back and recharge.
Self-care means setting healthy boundaries and standing your ground. Sometimes it means letting those tears flow when you feel overwhelmed and need to release some emotions. It's important to remember that taking care of yourself isn't selfish or weak.
We're Supposed to be Different
Have you ever caught yourself looking at another person and admiring their body features (for example, their nose shape), wondering why you look different? You’re not the only one! A lot of people compare themselves to others wanting to be more like them.
However, know that you’re totally fine the way you are. You look different because of your genes. It’s natural, and there’s no need to be ashamed of that. Sure, there's always room for self-improvement, but don't let comparison take away from your own beauty.
Fashion has no Age Limit
How much value or weight do you place on other people’s opinions? If your answer is “a lot,” then you really need to take a second look at this picture.
While respecting and valuing other people's opinions is important, you should never let them hold more weight than your self-worth. Trust your judgment and make decisions best for you. Don't let the opinions of others devalue the incredible person you are and your choices.
No Pressure
Are you ready to hear the truth about relationships? Most people have it backward! They think that relationships are the key to happiness and that being single means being miserable. But guess what? That's just plain wrong!
You can be happy on your own and still crave a fulfilling relationship. It's better to learn to love yourself before jumping into a relationship. You won't rely on someone else to bring you happiness or let anyone mess with your inner peace.
There's Just No Winning
We’ve talked a lot about the hypocrisy that goes on in society, especially relating to women's sexuality. This picture is just another example. You need to know that there’s no pleasing people who are intent on judging you.
So why bother trying to please them? Don't let anyone pressure you into making decisions. It's easy to give in to the desire to be accepted and wanted, but at what cost? Stand your ground and choose what’s most important –YOU!
Make Lemonade
Do you ever feel like fear is holding you back from living your best life? Trust us, you're not alone. It's natural to feel a little uneasy about the unknown, but you should never let fear control you.
There will always be something you don't know. But that's no reason to stay stuck in your comfort zone. There's a whole world full of amazing experiences and opportunities waiting for you to discover them! Embrace the unknown and take a leap of faith.
How About Equality?
Let's talk about the double standards that women face when it comes to equality. Some argue that men should always be the primary providers in a relationship. But what happens when a woman demands that a man fulfill this role?
She gets called a gold digger! It's not fair. The truth is, it's all about responsibility. If you're going to be the provider in a relationship, then own up to that. Don't use it as an excuse to shirk your duties.
Timing
Ah, the age-old idea of meeting the right person at the right time. It's the stuff that romantic comedies are made of. But what about meeting the right person at the wrong time? That is heartbreaking. But you know what's even worse?
Meeting the wrong person at the right time! Unfortunately, this is a scenario many people have experienced when it comes to love. We all want to find that special someone, but be mindful of the person we're investing our time and emotions into.
There's No Rush
We spoke about marriage and how people are in a hurry to tie the knot. But honestly, there’s no reason why that should be the case. Taking your time might be the smartest thing you can do.
When you rush into marriage, you risk settling for someone who doesn't truly appreciate you for all you are. Wait until you find someone who recognizes how amazing you are and loves you for it. When the right person comes along, you'll know it.
Parenting or Babysitting?
Have you ever been around a group of parents and heard one of them say, "Sorry, I can't come out tonight, I need to babysit my kids"? It might seem a bit confusing. After all, how can you babysit your own kids?
Parenting is not a chore or a burden, it's a privilege and a responsibility. Whether you're a mom or a dad, taking care of your children is part of the job description. You don't "babysit" your own kids, you parent them!
Shades of Strength
If we ask what strength means to you, chances are, you’ll agree that the first image is a perfect representation. However, what if we tell you that the same applies to the second image too?
Strength isn't always about putting on a show of force or toughness. Sometimes, it takes real courage to let down your guard and allow yourself to feel and express all those difficult emotions. Allowing yourself to work through it is a sign of resilience.
No Means No!
Finally, we’re down to our last entry for this article and we’ll be ending things with a classic; the meaning of “NO!” When someone says "no," they mean it.
It's not an invitation to keep pushing or try to convince them otherwise. "No" means "no," plain and simple, and it's important to respect that. "No" is a complete sentence. Your boundaries and decisions are yours; you have every right to say no without feeling guilty or justifying yourself.
And that's a wrap! Forty-five deeply insightful lessons everyone needs to learn or be reminded of. Now it's your turn to weigh in. Which of these lessons resonated with you the most? Did any of them give you a new perspective or help you see things differently? We want to hear from you! So go ahead and leave us a comment below.